May 16, 2011 in Uncategorized

“Anger is a wind which blows out the lamp of the mind.” Robert Green Ingersoll




Explore unresolved conflicts that sabotage YOUR RELATIONSHIPS.

Some of the themes you will explore over the life of the group: anxiety and social awareness, stress and anger management, intimacy, marriage and couples communication issues, conflict resolution, triggers, communication skills, emotional intelligence, body awareness, self control, relationship management, the dynamics of expression your needs and getting you needs met and building healthy relationships.

Together we will explore the themes of intimacy and emotions in relationships of how we can lead more productive lives using an assertive communication style and how patterns of miscommunication and relating often sabotage our goals. I will offer you the opportunity to learn life skills that I call the “M.E.T. Empowerment Success System”- Have You MET yourself today? Using Motivation, Education and Training techniques to create your own success system that gets you the positive results that you want more often with more consistency. We are often being run by old behaviors and thinking that we don’t realize we can change them until we’ve discovered what they are.

Another goal for the group is for us to create a safe place where you can feel supported by other people experience stress, frustration, anger, disruptive and destructive behaviors. This is not a group where people will confront each other or give each other advice or opinions- instead we will work together to create a shared resonance in the here and now that allows a new kind of social interaction.


You Must Pre-Register for “All” Classes!
No Walk-Ins!

Call (510) 501-1862 or e-mail me at:
First Class Starts: Saturday, June 4, 2011 @ 8:30 a.m.
Please complete the Form on the “Contact Us” page at:

Each participant will be seen for an initial assessment prior to participation in the class.

Tuesday – 6:00 p.m. to 8:00 p.m.
Thursday – 6:00 p.m. to 8:00 p.m.
Saturday – 9:00 a.m. to 4:30 p.m.

Monday and Wednesday – 6 – 8 p.m.

Individual Classes/Coaching: Upon Request

Organizational Workshops: Upon Request

Teleclasses: Upon Request (Adults Only)

Skype Individual Classes: Upon Request

Physical Location: 2145 Broadway, Oakland, CA

Materials Needed: Mandatory Workbook

Verification and payments are due the day of or
prior to enrolling in the class via PayPal, Check,
Credit Card or Money Order. All checks must be
cleared before you can start class. Cash payments
are not excepted unless prior arrangements have
been made. Please call for pricing.

All classes are confidential.

Jill Arrington-CAMF, CPC, CYPFC, CEO of Anger Management and Beyond and Beyond Your Horizons is a Certified Anger Management Facilitator, Certified Professional and Youth. Parent and Family Coach. She has helped hundreds of women, men and youth to obtain the skills, resources and inner-strength they need in order to take their life beyond what they could think or image. Her dedication to helping others improve their lives through empowerment coaching and anger management classes is one of the most rewarding things she says she has ever done!


Our Youth Are Being Sexually and Commericially Exploited Right In Our Neighborhoods!

April 26, 2011 in Homeless and Runaway Youth, Uncategorized

Ask NCFY: Domestic Human Trafficking of Youth Is a Big Problem That’s Hard to Pin Down

Prostitution in Our Community


heart-shaped pin cushion with brightly colored pinsQ. “I’ve been hearing a lot about the commercial sexual exploitation of runaway and homeless youth in my state. How many youth are trafficked in the United States each year?”

A. No one knows exactly how many young people each year are forced into prostitution, or commercial sexual exploitation. And without solid numbers, the commercial sexual exploitation of youth remains a hidden problem in many communities.

There are many reasons why counting trafficked young people is difficult. Many victims are reluctant to rat out their pimps, fearing violence or even death. Seeking to protect their clients’ confidentiality, many youth-serving agencies do not ask questions about this subject. A report conducted by Shared Hope International, an organization working to end sex trafficking and slavery, gives a long list of obstacles to determining the scope of domestic sex trafficking of children: “The lack of tracking, the common misidentification [of victims], the frequent plea agreements or declined prosecutions, and the stove-piped communications among and within law enforcement, juvenile justice and service providers prevent the capture of the complete picture,” the report’s authors write.

A frequently cited study on trafficking of children and youth in North America, “The Commercial Sexual Exploitation of Children in the U.S., Canada, and Mexico,” estimated the number of youth “at risk” for commercial sexual exploitation to be between 244,000 and 325,000. But those numbers have been refuted by the Crimes Against Children Research Center, among others. The center’s researchers point out that the number of youth at risk is no stand-in for an estimate of youth actually involved in prostitution.

Throughout March, NCFY will continue to look at the issue of commercial sexual exploitation of youth, so check back for more information.

Better Choices, Better Futures – Reflections of My Youth

January 28, 2011 in Reflections of My Youth

Inquiring About Homeless Youth and Reflecting On Their Challenges


When I reflect on my own family, I could have easily been a victim of homelessness.  The madness within our family structure prior to my father getting sober was sometimes  unbearable.  But what kept me from running away?

As I reflect back on my own home situation I see there were some motivating factors for staying home and dealing with the violence, poor life coping skills, abandonment, ignorance, lack of and inability to communicate effectively, division, addiction, abuse and dissension within my home.

Reasons to stay:

1.)    I didn’t feel like I had any where else to go.

2.)    I didn’t like the thought of being hungry.

3.)    I was afraid of leaving the parents that I loved so much.

4.)    I loved going to school and needed lunch money and clothes.

5.)    I had great parents regardless of their dysfunction they loved me.

6.)    I didn’t know if I would find that love anywhere else.

7.)    I was highly praised and rewarded for my smarts.

8.)    I liked my friends and none of them ran away from home.

9.)    I was afraid of the police.  They came to my house all the time and knew who I was.

10.)                        I loved my sister and my brother and would have missed them so much.

11.)                        I felt sorry that they didn’t get the treatment I did.

12.)                        I was the only one my father would listen to when he was drunk.

What things where happening in my home that could have caused me to run away?

1.) Addiction

2.) Verbal Abuse

3.) Not emotionally available (abandonment)

4.) Neighborhood molestation

5.) Police always at our house

6.) Embarrassment, humility and shame

7.) Confusion

8.) Entitlement

9.) Rejection

10.) Anxiety

11.) Mental Health Disorders

12.) Financial strain

Questions to reflect on?

1.) Who did I have to be in order to stay under those conditions?

2.) What choices did I have to make?

3.) What limiting beliefs did I form?

4.) What values were instilled in me at that age?

I know these questions are different for every runaway and homeless youth, but I will be inquiring into the mystery of each of my youth’s lives because I care about what happened and the choices that they will make to survive today.

Questions for BYA Youth

What happens before a youth becomes homeless?

What are their thoughts?

What is the straw that breaks the camels back?

What is the process for reuniting youth back for their family?

Why do youth runaway?

Where do they go and why?

What are the resources provided by the State and Federal government for Homeless Youth?

What are your strength?

What are your weaknesses?

Who did you have to be to live this life?

How has it helped you?

How has it hurt you?

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